WIN-WIN APPROACH
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WIN-LOSE APPROACH
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Define the conflict as a mutual problem. |
Define the conflict as a win-lose situation. |
Pursue goals held in common. |
Pursue ones own goals. |
Find creative agreements that are satisfying to both
parties or present a mutually acceptable compromise. |
Force the other party into submission. |
Have an accurate personal understanding of ones
own needs and show them correctly. |
Have an accurate personal understanding of ones
own needs, but publicly disguise or misrepresent them. |
Try to equalize power by emphasizing mutual
interdependence, avoiding harm, inconvenience, harassment, embarrassment to the other
party. |
Try to increase ones power over the other party by
emphasizing ones independence from the other and the others dependence upon
oneself. |
Make sure contacts are on the equal power. |
Try to arrange contact where ones own basis of
power is the greater. |
Use open, honest, and accurate communication of
ones needs, goals, position, and proposals. |
Use deceitful, inaccurate, and misleading communication
of ones needs, goals, position, and proposals. |
Work to have highest empathy and understanding of
others position, feelings, and frame of reference. |
Avoid all empathy and understanding of others
position, feelings, and frame of reference. |
Communicate a problem-solving orientation. |
Communicate a win-lose orientation. |
Avoid threats in order to reduce others
defensiveness. |
Use threats to get submission. |
Express hostility to get rid of ones feelings that
may interfere with future cooperation. |
Hostility is expressed to subdue the other. |
Communicate flexibility of position to help in creative
problem solving. |
Communicate highest commitment (rigid adherence) to
ones position to force the other to give in. |
Behave predictably; though flexible behavior is
appropriate, it is not designed to take other party by surprise. |
Behave unpredictably to use the element of surprise. |
Change position as soon as possible
to help in problem solving. |
Concede and change slowly to force concessions from the
other. |